I recently broke up with my doctor via email . . . I thought it worth documenting, in case others find it necessary one day.

EDIT: Added NEA-BPD 6-module online course for professionals, & most recent MHPN webinar links

Dear [doctor],

I regret to inform you that I will no longer be attending your practice. When I first visited you, nearly a year ago, in September last year, I explained to you that I had been diagnosed for several years now with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I also explained to you that I had struggled to find a GP who had sufficient knowledge about my condition to entrust as my primary care provider, a role which is vital to my ongoing treatment & hopes of getting better one day. I began to trust that you could fill this role, until our most recent appointment, when I was shocked to learn your knowledge of my condition was insufficient to even explain it to your colleague when she had never heard of BPD before meeting me.

However, it was your decision to defer to me to make the explanation when you were unable to do so that was really the deciding moment, & I feel it necessary to point out how unacceptable that is, to place that expectation on me – as a doctor, to expect the patient to explain their condition to a colleague of yours, & to educate you both in doing so, is simply not my role, nor should it be expected of me, or of any patient.

Therefore, I have compiled a list of far more suitable resources you can use to increase your knowledge, from sources which are designed for you to glean this information from, to avoid any other patients from needing to play the role you expected I would. I hope you, & your colleague, can learn from these, & go on to provide the degree of proactive, positive & hopeful care which is so important in your roles, in the lives of others with Borderline Personality Disorder who you will encounter in the future.

Mental Health Professionals’ Networks (MHPN):

Project Air Strategy:

National Health & Medical Research Council (NHMRC):

National Education Alliance of Borderline Personality Disorder Australia:

NEA-BPD 6-Module Free Online Course for Professionals: This education series was designed for professionals to learn basic principles for the diagnosis and treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder. It is the result of a collaboration between Drs. Brian Palmer, Lois Choi-Kain, and John Gunderson. It was supported by a grant from the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder to help promote its mission to provide education and build awareness on BPD.

The series of six, 20-minute modules features videos of patients/families, interactive quizzes, narrated slides, and videos from a number of experts. The video clips were made possible by Dawkins Productions, Hasting on Hudson, New York. They are all excerpts from “Living with Borderline Personality Disorder.”

Module 1: Making the Diagnosis
Module 2: Suicidality Course and Outcome
Module 3: Treatment Planning
Module 4: Treatment
Module 5: Psychopharmacology Management
Module 6: Family Involvement

Gold Coast Primary Health Network:

  • Gold Coast Primary Health Network – GCPHN Mental Health Resources Resources & links to assist mental health practitioners to support people with mental health issues.



In closing, I realise that much of this information may be limited in terms of usefulness for those outside of my city/state/country, at least to some degree. I apologise for that, & encourage you to seek out the equivalent information available in your area, as there is a good chance you may find something similar exists.


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